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While my home-base is in Colorado—on the stolen, ancestral lands of the Arapaho, Ute, and Cheyenne tribes—I work with people and communities across the Dreaming Earth. You can send me a digital howl using the button below or by emailing support@hollytruhlar.com. If you want to know about upcoming workshops, groups, and in-person events sign up for my newsletter below, connect with me on instagram, check out my substack, or explore my Events & Offerings page.

 

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MAY WE STAY SOFT ENOUGH: RESISTING THE DEHUMANIZAT MAY WE STAY SOFT ENOUGH: RESISTING THE DEHUMANIZATION OF ZIONISM | Saturdays, November 1st & 8th May We Stay Soft Enough is an invitation to examine and reimagine our politics of resistance. Can we resist zionism without losing our humanity? How can we stay soft in the face of widespread dehumanization? How do we hold the heartbreak and betrayal of friends and colleagues who stay silent, look away, or align themselves with genocide? When is our rage sacred, and when is it a replication of imperial violence? Join Holly Truhlar and Sarah J.S. for a two-part participatory workshop and exploration of embodied anti-zionism. Over two 2.5-hour sessions, we will explore how zionism shapes our relationships, and strengthen our ability to hold another person’s humanity, even if they deny ours. This is a space to feel our feelings, explore our responses to zionism, and consider the challenges we face within our communities and movement spaces as we cultivate pathways toward collective liberation. OVERVIEW: Co-Facilitators: @WorkWithSarahJS and @HollyTruhlar Dates & Times: Nov 1st & 8th, 1:00 - 3:30pm ET Where: Zoom (partially recorded), register via E*entBr!te Note: We do not expect people directly experiencing genocide to “stay soft.” We are not discouraging resistance, self-defense, or holy outrage. Rather, this offering is for those whose calling in this moment is to practice staying open while standing firmly for a Free Palestine. It’s a space for grievers, organizers, healers, activists, and allies who want to expand their capacity to hold complexity, compassion, and rage, alongside a place of welcome for anyone who might join the movement toward collective liberation. . . . #GriefSupport #SoulWork #CollectiveLiberation #EmergentStrategy #TheWildEdgeOfSorrow #CollapsePsychology #SoulActivism
SORROWS OF THE WORLD VIGIL | Friday, October 24th, SORROWS OF THE WORLD VIGIL | Friday, October 24th, 10-11am PDT / 1-2pm EDT A vigil is a devotional time where we come together to acknowledge and mourn our personal and collective sorrows. It’s a time when we can slow down and tend to our grief together. We’ll open with a welcome and poem, then we’ll ground together and light candles to mark our time in sacred ritual space. With candles lit, there will be an invitation to share griefs and losses in the chat so that we can hold them in our communal container. Music will play for 15-20 minutes. While the music is playing, participants are encouraged to tend their altars, meditate, connect with ancestors, write, draw, cry, stretch, or simply be—anything that honors and makes space for our sorrows. We’ll come back together for a somatic centering practice, then a poem, and blow out our candles to close. Donations are welcome but not required. All donations will go directly to support a Palestinian living in Gaza. OVERVIEW: Co-Facilitators: Naila Francis @thishallowedwilderness and Holly Truhlar @hollytruhlar Date and Time: Friday, October 24th 10-11am PT / 11-12pm MT / 1-2pm ET Where: Zoom (not recorded), register via E*entBr!te *Candles encouraged, all grief is welcome. . . . #GriefSupport #Vigil #GatesOfGrief #CollectiveGrief #ClimatePsychology #TheWildEdgeOfSorrow #TraumaInformed #SoulWork #JaiyaJohn #NoorHindi #PixieLighthorse #LynicePinkard
This is what’s dreaming through me in response t This is what’s dreaming through me in response to the vast incongruencies we’re witnessing in the trauma and grief field. I truly thought any collective trauma and grief confererence would include these upfront but I am realizing this is not the case. Let’s create spaces where it is normal and expected to speak directly about the genocides in Palestine, Sudan, and the Congo. Let’s have the difficult conversations with our teachers and mentors about what’s missing in their work (I’m continually doing this and it’s haaaard). Let’s invest in practitioners who can hold more complexity and who center those most impacted. In my opinion, people with large platforms who cannot talk directly about the genocide are not qualified to be teaching about collective trauma, grief, or healing in these times. Of course, there’s nuance and fluidity here, and I’ll share some of the discernment questions I use for this in an upcoming post. Here are some of the people and resources who’s words and work has helped me think about and dream into this over the last few days: @dr.rose.aslan @kaichengthom @scienceandnonduality_ @danielfoor @workwithsarahjs If you’re down for a conference like this, let me know in the comments. If there are questions or skills you’d like to see included, I want to hear them. XO, H 🌈🫏🧙🏻‍♀️ . . . #TraumaInformedCare #TraumaWork #GriefWork #GriefSupport #Polycrisis #ClimatePsychology #CollectiveHealing #EmergentStrategy #WeWillNotCancelUs
A couple of people sent me a resonant post by @sci A couple of people sent me a resonant post by @scienceandnonduality_ on Friday. When I went to the post which began with “what happens when trauma work refuses to name the most visible trauma of our time?” I saw someone in the comments calling out Thomas Hübl for not naming the genocide in Palestine. I was in disbelief, given his work as a teacher on collective trauma, AND because I have close friends and colleagues who collaborate with him. The next day, I posted a story asking people more familiar with his work if this was true. The resounding answer was: “Yes, it’s true. He’s a Zionist who does not name the genocide in Palestine.” I was shocked, shaken, angry, and sad. Today, someone publicly commented, “In healing we often don’t heal until we can directly name something. Part of the bulk of Thomas’s work is that healing requires specificity and attunement to that specificity. So yes. It’s really uncomfortable.” These slides are part of my response. If I’ve gotten something wrong here, please tell me. I’ll also be talking with colleagues and connections about this. Apparently, Thomas is hosting a multi-day trauma summit starting today, with people I deeply respect and trust. I’m genuinely curious what they think of this. Mostly, I’m wondering what it will take to bring teachers and leaders in the “healing” space into alignment. As I say on the slides: we can’t heal while avoiding the harm we’re still enacting. Let me add: it is harmful to be neutral or silent about genocide. It is harmful to ask people not to name the genocide in healing and learning spaces. It is also harmful to dispose of people, including teachers, and not give them a way back into coherence and belonging through compassionate accountability. I hope this helps us all become more aligned with truth. I’m sure some won’t like that I’m being so direct about this. I’m open to more conversation about it. Here are some teachers I know who are ethically congruent with their teaching around trauma and grief: @nkemndefo @kaichengthom @decolonizingtherapy @rowenwhite XO, H 🌈🫏🧙🏻‍♀️
These posts are from my latest essay, “There is These posts are from my latest essay, “There is No Safety Under Empire: Reflections on Resistance, Liberatory Grief, and Love.” The full essay has a ton of informative links and footnotes. It also has a follow-up from my open letter to my students when I was removed for naming the g—cide. You know where to find it. I’m writing more long form these days, so join me over there if you want more. Tagging the folks I quoted here so you can easily find them: @noorkhindi @sim_bookstagrams_badly @k.w.bogen iamlaurachung (unable to tag) May we all root down with Soul, and rise up in solidarity—today, tomorrow, and every day. XO, H 🌈🫏🧙🏻‍♀️ . . . #EmergentStrategy #TheWildEdgeOfSorrow #LiberatoryGrief #PoliticizedGrief #CollapsePsychology #Polycrisis #HeavenLooksLikeUs #SoulWork #ChrisHedges #NoamChomsky #GriefWork #CollectiveLiberation
As we descend further into collapse and the Long D As we descend further into collapse and the Long Dark, the skills of rupture and repair will only become more essential. Many of us are already carrying betrayal, abandonment, moral injury, hurt, and harm. How do we mitigate harm and open pathways toward healing? What do we owe one another? How do we build belonging in times of rupture? We live in a culture full of unconscious rituals of exile and punishment, what are our rituals of repair? What might shift if we knew how to grieve the violence and harm we’re inside of and enacting? This October–December in Soulful Life, we’ll gather in a soul-centered space to explore abolitionism, transformative justice, the Sixth Gate of Grief, and compassionate accountability. Together we’ll work with the Predator archetype and the Punisher-part within us. Through ritual, we’ll feel into its deeper needs and practice sacrificing more of what keeps us separate and less of each other. We’ll be co-held by Cassandra Lam @Collective_Rest, Naila Francis @ThisHallowedWilderness, and me. And, @KaiChengThom will join us as a guest guide for several weeks, bringing her unique blend of community care, depth psychology, and Deep Democracy work. If you’re feeling called, applications are open now. DETAILS ABOUT MENDING THE WEB: COMMUNAL PRACTICES FOR RUPTURE, REPAIR, AND BELONGING Soulful Life October–December Series Wednesdays, 12:30–2:00pm PT / 3:30–5:00pm ET Applications open through mid-October Co-Guides: Naila Francis, Cassandra Lam, Kai Cheng Thom, and Holly Truhlar PS: I’m especially grateful that Soulful Life members voted for this series. It takes courage to say: we don’t quite know how to do this, but we know this matters to our souls. Let’s learn together. . . . #SoulfulLife #TheWildEdgeOfSorrow #GriefRituals #TransformativeJustice #IHopeWeChooseLove #Abolitionism #RuptureAndRepair #WeWillNotCancelUs #TheLongDark #CollapsePsychology #ClimatePsychology #Polycrisis #CulturalRepair #CompassionateAccountability #SoulWork
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