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While my home-base is in Colorado—on the stolen, ancestral lands of the Arapaho, Ute, and Cheyenne tribes—I work with people and communities across the Dreaming Earth. You can send me a a digital howl using the button below or by emailing HollyTruhlar@gmail.com. If you want to know about upcoming workshops, groups, and in-person events sign up for my newsletter below or explore my Events & Offerings page.


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    Last week in Unravel | Entangle, we oriented ourse Last week in Unravel | Entangle, we oriented ourselves to collapse and shared stories of how we’re currently orienting to the Long Dark. Tonight, we’ll trace our paths into collapse awareness. Of course, many people, particularly those exploited and oppressed by systems of domination, were born into collapse—their lived experience deeply intertwined with the planetary unraveling. Others remember specific moments when the polycrisis came into sharp focus, while some of us moved along a gradual path of growing recognition through waves of grief and clarity. When did you become collapse aware? What was the trailhead that brought you deeper into the Long Dark? How long did you know the world was coming undone and not do anything? When did you deepen compassion for people who are not collapse aware? What do you need now, at this point in your collapse journey? All collapse journeys are welcome here in our gathering space, whether inherited through generations, discovered in sudden revelation, or slowly unfurled through time. Join us tonight at 5:30pm PST / 6:30pm MST for some not-so-curated conversations about collapse. DETAILS 🕒 Tuesdays, 5:30-6:45pm PST 💻 Via Zoom 👯‍♀️ With @hollytruhlar & @imlikenlichen 🌈 Register on eventbrite . . . #CollapsePyschology #ClimatePsychology #Polycrisis #TheWildEdgeOfSorrow #TheLongDark #SoulWork #WhatIfWeGetItRight #EmergentStrategy #OctaviaButler #FrancisWeller #NoraBateson #SoulfulLife
    I haven’t been this scared to share a post in a I haven’t been this scared to share a post in a loooong time. I’ve been sitting with this for months, watching it take shape and shape me. It’s born from painful interpersonal experiences, yes, but more importantly, from a deep longing for genuine coalition and community building. This exploration is nuanced, and I want to acknowledge the vital connected conversations about male violence, domestic violence, and coercive control over women and gender non-conforming people. My focus here is specifically on people in relatively secure relationships and living situations, examining how couple privilege operates even in seemingly “safe” spaces. Much of my experience is with wh-te womanhood (as a wh-te, que-r, solo, woman-ish), which is why I’m speaking directly to that. I could say so much more about straight etiquette, neuronormative expectations, and man patterns. To be clear: I’m not anti-monogamy—I’ve enjoyed some monogamous relationships. I’m anti-compulsory monogamy. I’m anti-centering marriage, romantic relationships, and the nuclear family as the most worthwhile endeavors. I’m for building true community. I’m for commitment to love in many forms. I’m for the wild and wonder of layered love and the messiness of being human together. As I explore in the last slide: when we loosen our dependence on heteronormative security, we open ourselves to deeper forms of belonging. True belonging emerges from building relationships capable of holding complexity, difference, and interdependence. This can be both terrifying and liberating; it requires us to bet on collective care rather than couple privilege, on transformative love rather than scripts around “true love.” What becomes possible when we dare to love differently? I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences. How do these patterns show up in your life? Where and how are you disrupting the norm and cultivating multicentric love? What would you add to this conversation? . . . #Belonging #AttachmentTheory #SecureAttachment #CoupleGoals #CoupleBubble #RelationshipAnarchy #ConsensualNonMonogamy #Polyamory #SoloPolyamory #CommunityBuilding #PleasureActivism #Grief #SoulfulLife #FriendshipIsLove
    UNRAVEL | ENTANGLE: Not-So-Curated Conversations a UNRAVEL | ENTANGLE: Not-So-Curated Conversations about Collapse Last night we gathered to talk about collapse and the Long Dark. What emerged was a beautiful weaving of stories about learning to navigate uncertainty, finding beauty in the breaking down, and discovering we’re not alone in feeling it all. Through poetry, music, and honest sharing, we remembered that we can hold both grief and possibility, together. Join us next Tuesday as we map our collapse journeys—tracing the path that brought each of us into relationship with the gravity of these times, exploring the terrain we’ve crossed, and witnessing the ways the Long Dark has shaped us. All welcome, whether you’re collapse-obsessed, collapse-aware, or just collapse-curious. DETAILS 🕒 Tuesdays, 5:30-6:45pm PST 💻 Via Zoom 👯‍♀️ With @hollytruhlar & @imlikenlichen 🌈 Register on eventbrite . . . #CollapsePyschology #ClimatePsychology #Polycrisis #TheWildEdgeOfSorrow #TheLongDark #SoulWork #WhatIfWeGetItRight #EmergentStrategy #TheWorkThatReconnects #CollapseAware #TelepathyTapes #SoulfulLife
    This is for all whose hearts refuse to go quiet in This is for all whose hearts refuse to go quiet in the Long Dark. Thank you for showing up for these times. XO, H 🌈🫏🧙🏻‍♀️ . . . #TheLongDark #CollapsePsychology #ClimatePsychology #TheWildEdgeOfSorrow #FrancisWeller #HolyOutrage #GriefSupport #GriefJourney #SoulWork #SoulfulLife #EmergentStrategy #GriefWork
    Let’s linger in the Long Dark together. The Lo Let’s linger in the Long Dark together. The Long Dark is a time of descent and dissolution, of unraveling and necessary collapse. And, there’s soooooo much beauty, so much possibility, in the dark. This descent is not an ending, but a profound and necessary initiation. The Long Dark is where we remember how to tend an underculture of belonging—belonging to each other, the Dreaming Earth, the cosmos, and the depths. There is medicine in this darkness, precious gifts that can only be found by feeling our way through the dark with humility and heart. This time asks us to trust what we cannot see, to cultivate intimate relationship with uncertainty, to learn the languages of dream and intuition. In this holy darkness, we’re all called to become people of potency, people of immensity, people of luminosity. Let’s linger in the Long Dark a little while longer. XO, H 🌈🫏🧙🏻‍♀️ #TheLongDark #FrancisWeller #CollapsePsychology #ClimatePsychology #TheWildEdgeOfSorrow #WhatIfWeGetItRight #GriefWork #GriefJourney #SoulWork #EmergentStrategy #SoulfulLife
    UNRAVEL | ENTANGLE: Not-So-Curated Conversations a UNRAVEL | ENTANGLE: Not-So-Curated Conversations about Collapse Join us for intimate conversations about inhabiting these times of profound change, loss, and possibility together. Beginning this February, we’ll gather every Tuesday evening and co-create a communal container where uncertainty is welcomed, relationships are centered, and the mess of collapse becomes our teacher. Through conversation, imagination, and embodied practice, we’ll gather around questions like: What if we welcomed both the unpredictable and unimaginable? What is the underculture we want to root in during this time of the Long Dark? What opens up when we shift from problem-solving to mutual learning in the face of polycrisis? Hosted by Holly Truhlar and Emily Rhae Swanson, these conversations will celebrate neuroqueerness, ecological entanglement, and soul while holding space for the confusion, grief, and tenderness of these times. We draw inspiration from thinkers, feelers, and projects like Octavia Butler, Ayana Elizabeth Johnson, Alexis Pauline Gumbs, Nora Bateson, Francis Weller, the Telepathy Tapes, and the beyond-human-beings who remind us that in times of collapse we’re called to practice belonging with the unfamiliar. If this stirs something in you, we’d love to have you join us in this experiment. DETAILS 📅 Starting February 2025 🕒 Tuesdays, 5:30-6:45pm PST 💻 Via Zoom 👯‍♀️ With @hollytruhlar & @imlikenlichen 🌈 Register on eventbrite . . . #CollapsePyschology #ClimatePsychology #Polycrisis #TheWildEdgeOfSorrow #TheLongDark #SoulWork #WhatIfWeGetItRight #EmergentStrategy #OctaviaButler #RowenWhite #AlexisPaulineGumbs #FrancisWeller #AyanaElizabethJohnson #NoraBateson #TelepathyTapes #SoulfulLife
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