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While my home-base is in Colorado—on the stolen, ancestral lands of the Arapaho, Ute, and Cheyenne tribes—I work with people and communities across the Dreaming Earth. You can send me a digital howl using the button below or by emailing support@hollytruhlar.com. If you want to know about upcoming workshops, groups, and in-person events sign up for my newsletter below, connect with me on instagram, check out my substack, or explore my Events & Offerings page.

 

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I’m not saying anything new but it seems to make s I’m not saying anything new but it seems to make some people upset sooooo here I go again. Really, I’m just asking us to imagine something beyond therapy, beyond Empire and these f*ck*d up systems. And while I know some of you are like: yah but what about therapy annnnd revolution?? Seeing as we live in an overculture that is obsessed with privatized, individualized everything, and the field of therapy already has a grip on what we consider healing, I don’t feel the need to keep bringing it into the equation. And, it’s caused so much harm to so many, including my communities and beloveds, so I’m going to trust you all can discern when therapy is helpful and when you/we need to evolve past it. Alright, see you in 2026. XO, H 🌈🫏🧙🏻‍♀️
I knnoooow there are many forms of therapy, and it I knnoooow there are many forms of therapy, and it’s not always useless. I know that one-to-one care can sometimes be supportive, stabilizing, even lifesaving. I know these things are complex. And, therapy that stops at the individual cannot meet the scale of harm we’re living inside. Therapy that pathologizes people and doesn’t honestly, continuously weave in the systems of supremacy and soul severance is causing harm. I also know some people will say: you don’t understand how violent a revolution would be. Perhaps you’re not understanding how violent the systems and situation we’re in now is. We’re living through polycrisis and end capitalism, just because it hasn’t gotten extremely violent for you and your people doesn’t mean others, like me, haven’t watched their beloveds die horrifying deaths at the hands of Empire. I’m not the first to articulate this. Many people and movements have been naming it for decades, including Disabled, Mad, and Neuroqueer communities. James Hillman said this over three decades ago: “We’ve had a hundred years of analysis, and people are getting more and more sensitive, and the world is getting worse and worse… We still locate the psyche inside the skin… What’s left out is a deteriorating world... By removing the soul from the world and not recognizing that the soul is also in the world, psychotherapy can’t do its job anymore. The buildings are sick, the institutions are sick, the banking system’s sick, the schools, the streets—the sickness is out there… It is the civilization that is dysfunctional… we have to work on cures beyond my cure. That’s revolution.” XO, H 🌈🫏🧙🏻‍♀️
For Ivy and Brett, always. There is a particular For Ivy and Brett, always. There is a particular grief that comes with outliving siblings, with being older than your older brother and sister. It’s a weaving of disbelief, gratitude, regret, grief, wonder, and responsibility. I am living the years they didn’t get, and that feels both heavy and holy at the same time. XO, H 🌈🫏🧙🏻‍♀️
Content note: This post discusses intentional disr Content note: This post discusses intentional disruption of grief spaces, including non-consensual s*xu*l content, without graphic detail. We’ve received mentorship around this, and are actively working on ways to keep these grief offerings public while preventing further violat*ons. We also know there are communities with long-standing practice in responding to this kind of disruption, and we are listening to those with more experience. We’re open to thoughtful suggestions. Most importantly, we will not stop doing politicized grief tending. We are holding what’s tender and sacred in these times, and we will continue to tend with care, vigilance, strength, and softness. 🩵
When I’m talking about “leaders” I’m including fac When I’m talking about “leaders” I’m including facilitators, teachers, community organizers, healers, mentors, and elders. I know some people really don’t like the word “leader” because it’s too hierarchical, and I get that. I also think many of us have an aversion to it because we haven’t experienced rooted, relational, responsible leadership. Skilled leadership involves earned power and fluidity. When we see leadership as changing depending on who’s in the room and what’s called for, it feels less off-putting, more meaningful, more necessary and natural. We’re all being called into leadership roles as we deepen into the Long Dark. And we need skilled leaders, discerning leaders, compassionate and relational leaders. Leaders open to feedback and change. What leadership skills would you add? We’re facilitating a 9-month politicized grief ritual leadership training in 2026. Shout out to my co-facilitators @tajahsahar @thishallowedwilderness and @jessi_rado_ who are co-shaping and holding “The Heart is Frontline: Politicized Grief Ritual Leadership Training.” Check us out, you know where. Applications are open and we’re filling up with an amazing cohort taking shape. I hope some of you will join us! XO, H 🌈🫏🧙🏻‍♀️
Often when I start a slide set I don’t know where Often when I start a slide set I don’t know where it’s going to end up. This one started with collapse and ended with the Predator. Makes sense and/but it is deeply layered. This is where psyche meets myth and offers us more imaginal ways to understand what we’re living through. Predator is a challenging archetype, and it is necessary, it has a purpose. Predator demands: what do you have to get past me??! It makes us embody our fullest selves. And, it turns out we have so much force that can dismember Predator, particularly when we connect with each other. A couple more notes: I am talking about Predator on an archetypal, collective level. I’m also noting how the predatory systems we’re in embody this archetype. I am not, and will never, blame anyone who is the victim of Predator or predatory behavior. We can only face Predator together, not culled from the herd, so we can see why these systems try to separate us. Also, Clarissa and David’s language in their quotes are gendered and I left them as is because both the pieces they’re from are so powerful. When I read them to groups I’m teaching, I often will use non-gendered terms and they work just as well. I’ve learned about Predator directly from Clarissa Pinkola Estés Réyes and Francis Weller. I don’t know any others teaching about it, and this wisdom is so needed right now. I hope to teach about Predator in a group setting sometime in 2026. Let me know if you’re interested. May we each find our full aliveness and bring our most potent soul medicine into this ailing world. And so it is. XO, H 🌈🫏🧙🏻‍♀️
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