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While my home-base is in Colorado—on the stolen, ancestral lands of the Arapaho, Ute, and Cheyenne tribes—I work with people and communities across the Dreaming Earth. You can send me a digital howl using the button below or by emailing support@hollytruhlar.com. If you want to know about upcoming workshops, groups, and in-person events sign up for my newsletter below, connect with me on instagram, check out my substack, or explore my Events & Offerings page.

 

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This is what’s dreaming through me in response t This is what’s dreaming through me in response to the vast incongruencies we’re witnessing in the trauma and grief field. I truly thought any collective trauma and grief confererence would include these upfront but I am realizing this is not the case. Let’s create spaces where it is normal and expected to speak directly about the genocides in Palestine, Sudan, and the Congo. Let’s have the difficult conversations with our teachers and mentors about what’s missing in their work (I’m continually doing this and it’s haaaard). Let’s invest in practitioners who can hold more complexity and who center those most impacted. In my opinion, people with large platforms who cannot talk directly about the genocide are not qualified to be teaching about collective trauma, grief, or healing in these times. Of course, there’s nuance and fluidity here, and I’ll share some of the discernment questions I use for this in an upcoming post. Here are some of the people and resources who’s words and work has helped me think about and dream into this over the last few days: @dr.rose.aslan @kaichengthom @scienceandnonduality_ @danielfoor @workwithsarahjs If you’re down for a conference like this, let me know in the comments. If there are questions or skills you’d like to see included, I want to hear them. XO, H 🌈🫏🧙🏻‍♀️ . . . #TraumaInformedCare #TraumaWork #GriefWork #GriefSupport #Polycrisis #ClimatePsychology #CollectiveHealing #EmergentStrategy #WeWillNotCancelUs
A couple of people sent me a resonant post by @sci A couple of people sent me a resonant post by @scienceandnonduality_ on Friday. When I went to the post which began with “what happens when trauma work refuses to name the most visible trauma of our time?” I saw someone in the comments calling out Thomas Hübl for not naming the genocide in Palestine. I was in disbelief, given his work as a teacher on collective trauma, AND because I have close friends and colleagues who collaborate with him. The next day, I posted a story asking people more familiar with his work if this was true. The resounding answer was: “Yes, it’s true. He’s a Zionist who does not name the genocide in Palestine.” I was shocked, shaken, angry, and sad. Today, someone publicly commented, “In healing we often don’t heal until we can directly name something. Part of the bulk of Thomas’s work is that healing requires specificity and attunement to that specificity. So yes. It’s really uncomfortable.” These slides are part of my response. If I’ve gotten something wrong here, please tell me. I’ll also be talking with colleagues and connections about this. Apparently, Thomas is hosting a multi-day trauma summit starting today, with people I deeply respect and trust. I’m genuinely curious what they think of this. Mostly, I’m wondering what it will take to bring teachers and leaders in the “healing” space into alignment. As I say on the slides: we can’t heal while avoiding the harm we’re still enacting. Let me add: it is harmful to be neutral or silent about genocide. It is harmful to ask people not to name the genocide in healing and learning spaces. It is also harmful to dispose of people, including teachers, and not give them a way back into coherence and belonging through compassionate accountability. I hope this helps us all become more aligned with truth. I’m sure some won’t like that I’m being so direct about this. I’m open to more conversation about it. Here are some teachers I know who are ethically congruent with their teaching around trauma and grief: @nkemndefo @kaichengthom @decolonizingtherapy @rowenwhite XO, H 🌈🫏🧙🏻‍♀️
These posts are from my latest essay, “There is These posts are from my latest essay, “There is No Safety Under Empire: Reflections on Resistance, Liberatory Grief, and Love.” The full essay has a ton of informative links and footnotes. It also has a follow-up from my open letter to my students when I was removed for naming the g—cide. You know where to find it. I’m writing more long form these days, so join me over there if you want more. Tagging the folks I quoted here so you can easily find them: @noorkhindi @sim_bookstagrams_badly @k.w.bogen iamlaurachung (unable to tag) May we all root down with Soul, and rise up in solidarity—today, tomorrow, and every day. XO, H 🌈🫏🧙🏻‍♀️ . . . #EmergentStrategy #TheWildEdgeOfSorrow #LiberatoryGrief #PoliticizedGrief #CollapsePsychology #Polycrisis #HeavenLooksLikeUs #SoulWork #ChrisHedges #NoamChomsky #GriefWork #CollectiveLiberation
As we descend further into collapse and the Long D As we descend further into collapse and the Long Dark, the skills of rupture and repair will only become more essential. Many of us are already carrying betrayal, abandonment, moral injury, hurt, and harm. How do we mitigate harm and open pathways toward healing? What do we owe one another? How do we build belonging in times of rupture? We live in a culture full of unconscious rituals of exile and punishment, what are our rituals of repair? What might shift if we knew how to grieve the violence and harm we’re inside of and enacting? This October–December in Soulful Life, we’ll gather in a soul-centered space to explore abolitionism, transformative justice, the Sixth Gate of Grief, and compassionate accountability. Together we’ll work with the Predator archetype and the Punisher-part within us. Through ritual, we’ll feel into its deeper needs and practice sacrificing more of what keeps us separate and less of each other. We’ll be co-held by Cassandra Lam @Collective_Rest, Naila Francis @ThisHallowedWilderness, and me. And, @KaiChengThom will join us as a guest guide for several weeks, bringing her unique blend of community care, depth psychology, and Deep Democracy work. If you’re feeling called, applications are open now. DETAILS ABOUT MENDING THE WEB: COMMUNAL PRACTICES FOR RUPTURE, REPAIR, AND BELONGING Soulful Life October–December Series Wednesdays, 12:30–2:00pm PT / 3:30–5:00pm ET Applications open through mid-October Co-Guides: Naila Francis, Cassandra Lam, Kai Cheng Thom, and Holly Truhlar PS: I’m especially grateful that Soulful Life members voted for this series. It takes courage to say: we don’t quite know how to do this, but we know this matters to our souls. Let’s learn together. . . . #SoulfulLife #TheWildEdgeOfSorrow #GriefRituals #TransformativeJustice #IHopeWeChooseLove #Abolitionism #RuptureAndRepair #WeWillNotCancelUs #TheLongDark #CollapsePsychology #ClimatePsychology #Polycrisis #CulturalRepair #CompassionateAccountability #SoulWork
This is my response to so much of what’s unfolde This is my response to so much of what’s unfolded this week. I don’t have any hot takes because I’m trying not to add to the onslaught of commentary and disconnected emotions flooding us daily. I’m also not asking anyone to grieve anyone or anything that’s not genuinely breaking their heart, we each have our own multitude of ruptures and relationships to grieve. Most of my extra energy (what’s not gobbled up by trying to survive end-capitalism and Empire) goes into tending deep-time relationships. That’s the only way out of this collective nightmare. Here’s to tending village and the fierce practice of relational rupture and repair. XO, H 🌈🫏🧙🏻‍♀️ . . . #PolyCrisis #ForTheWild #EmergentStrategy #TheWildEdgeOfSorrow #CollapsePsychology #MutualAid #GriefWork #GriefRitual #MendingTheWeb
I’m so sick of not being able to have complex co I’m so sick of not being able to have complex conversations about complex and critical topics, and I don’t appreciate being berated by man-people with large platforms when I/we are asking reasonable questions. For me, this is about asking how we ethically navigate the collapse of Empire and critically evaluate programs like Chorus. I have mixed feelings about this and need more clarity on how Chorus actually functions before forming a fuller opinion. Some creators say they’re free to be critical of anyone they choose and make any content they want while in the program, and I hope that’s true. The contract they signed says the opposite. I believe creators deserve to be at choice and get paid for their work. I also believe the public deserves to understand who’s funding and shaping our public discourse (even if it’s not standard practice in our current system). This isn’t about blame or shame toward individuals. It’s about discernment and asking deeper questions about how power, money, and narrative-control are operating in these times of polycrisis and rising fascism, and what that means for those of us who are committed to building freer futures. Also, I want to note that I am not an attorney. I have a doctorate in law, a JD, which means I graduated law school. Technically, I am a lawyer but not an attorney. Meaning I’ve never taken the bar and thus have never passed the bar. I do have an extensive legal background, have read and edited thousands of contracts in my life, and read contracts with a legal mindset. Last and always: Free Palestine. May those aboard the Freedom Flotilla break the siege. May blessings and spells ride the waves with them. May food, water, and love flow freely to the people of Palestine. XO, H 🌈🫏🧙🏻‍♀️ PS: I welcome conversation, but if people can’t be respectful and thoughtful, I’ll restrict or close comments. . . . #EmergentStrategy #Polycrisis #CollapsePsychology #FreedomFlotilla #NeuroQueer #AntiCapitalism #ClimateCrisis #IndependentMedia #ProtectJournalists #ISurvivedLawSchool
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