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While my home-base is in Colorado—on the stolen, ancestral lands of the Arapaho, Ute, and Cheyenne tribes—I work with people and communities across the Dreaming Earth. You can send me a digital howl using the button below or by emailing support@hollytruhlar.com. If you want to know about upcoming workshops, groups, and in-person events sign up for my newsletter below, connect with me on instagram, check out my substack, or explore my Events & Offerings page.

 

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Content note: This post discusses intentional disr Content note: This post discusses intentional disruption of grief spaces, including non-consensual s*xu*l content, without graphic detail. We’ve received mentorship around this, and are actively working on ways to keep these grief offerings public while preventing further violat*ons. We also know there are communities with long-standing practice in responding to this kind of disruption, and we are listening to those with more experience. We’re open to thoughtful suggestions. Most importantly, we will not stop doing politicized grief tending. We are holding what’s tender and sacred in these times, and we will continue to tend with care, vigilance, strength, and softness. 🩵
When I’m talking about “leaders” I’m including fac When I’m talking about “leaders” I’m including facilitators, teachers, community organizers, healers, mentors, and elders. I know some people really don’t like the word “leader” because it’s too hierarchical, and I get that. I also think many of us have an aversion to it because we haven’t experienced rooted, relational, responsible leadership. Skilled leadership involves earned power and fluidity. When we see leadership as changing depending on who’s in the room and what’s called for, it feels less off-putting, more meaningful, more necessary and natural. We’re all being called into leadership roles as we deepen into the Long Dark. And we need skilled leaders, discerning leaders, compassionate and relational leaders. Leaders open to feedback and change. What leadership skills would you add? We’re facilitating a 9-month politicized grief ritual leadership training in 2026. Shout out to my co-facilitators @tajahsahar @thishallowedwilderness and @jessi_rado_ who are co-shaping and holding “The Heart is Frontline: Politicized Grief Ritual Leadership Training.” Check us out, you know where. Applications are open and we’re filling up with an amazing cohort taking shape. I hope some of you will join us! XO, H 🌈🫏🧙🏻‍♀️
Often when I start a slide set I don’t know where Often when I start a slide set I don’t know where it’s going to end up. This one started with collapse and ended with the Predator. Makes sense and/but it is deeply layered. This is where psyche meets myth and offers us more imaginal ways to understand what we’re living through. Predator is a challenging archetype, and it is necessary, it has a purpose. Predator demands: what do you have to get past me??! It makes us embody our fullest selves. And, it turns out we have so much force that can dismember Predator, particularly when we connect with each other. A couple more notes: I am talking about Predator on an archetypal, collective level. I’m also noting how the predatory systems we’re in embody this archetype. I am not, and will never, blame anyone who is the victim of Predator or predatory behavior. We can only face Predator together, not culled from the herd, so we can see why these systems try to separate us. Also, Clarissa and David’s language in their quotes are gendered and I left them as is because both the pieces they’re from are so powerful. When I read them to groups I’m teaching, I often will use non-gendered terms and they work just as well. I’ve learned about Predator directly from Clarissa Pinkola Estés Réyes and Francis Weller. I don’t know any others teaching about it, and this wisdom is so needed right now. I hope to teach about Predator in a group setting sometime in 2026. Let me know if you’re interested. May we each find our full aliveness and bring our most potent soul medicine into this ailing world. And so it is. XO, H 🌈🫏🧙🏻‍♀️
I know this post may make some people uncomfortabl I know this post may make some people uncomfortable (including me), angry, or defensive, while others feel seen, honored, and less alone. Just remember: we don’t have to agree on everything to stay in conversation. And, I’m genuinely interested in conversation around this. To be clear: people who medically cannot mask should not be expected to. That isn’t controversial, it’s basic care. But people who can mask have a responsibility to consider doing so, especially in shared ritual and healing spaces where vulnerability is central. I also want to name my own harm. Last year, I co-facilitated a grief ritual with more than 40 people. I asked my co-facilitators to require masking, testing, and proper ventilation. They didn’t want to. I gave in. Eighty to ninety percent of us got Covid. At least one person developed Long Covid afterward. It was my first and only (known) Covid infection. I was the most vulnerable person on the facilitation team because of my chronic illness and living alone; I know some participants there were likely even more vulnerable than me. This remains one of my deepest regrets as a facilitator. This year, I chose differently. I committed to Covid cautious gatherings: masking, outdoor spaces, ventilation, smaller groups when not masking, clearer communication. No one got Covid that I know of. For those of us who lead rituals, healing spaces, and community gatherings: we have responsibilities, such as communicating risk-level clearly, finding more ventilated venues, masking when possible. Grief work teaches interdependence, slow time, and care for the most vulnerable. I think we already know how to do this differently and we have an opportunity to really embody our values and create caring culture. If there’s interest, I may host a Deep Democracy conversation about this, a space where we can hold multiple truths, listen deeply, and practice compassionate accountability together. I’m sure there’s pieces I’m missing here and I’m open to thoughtful responses. XO, H 🌈🫏🧙🏻‍♀️
SORROWS OF THE WORLD VIGIL, Monday, December 22nd, SORROWS OF THE WORLD VIGIL, Monday, December 22nd, 5-6pm PST Join us for some after-Solstice soul care. Candles encouraged. All grief is welcome. Facilitated by @thishallowedwilderness and @hollytruhlar
Holly’s hot takes. Francis once advised me to be l Holly’s hot takes. Francis once advised me to be less fire-breathing dragon and more broody hen. A generous note. I remain a mythic creature 🔥. XO, H 🌈🫏🧙🏻‍♀️
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