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While my home-base is in Colorado—on the stolen, ancestral lands of the Arapaho, Ute, and Cheyenne tribes—I work with people and communities across the Dreaming Earth. You can send me a digital howl using the button below or by emailing support@hollytruhlar.com. If you want to know about upcoming workshops, groups, and in-person events sign up for my newsletter below, connect with me on instagram, check out my substack, or explore my Events & Offerings page.

 

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This is my response to so much of what’s unfolde This is my response to so much of what’s unfolded this week. I don’t have any hot takes because I’m trying not to add to the onslaught of commentary and disconnected emotions flooding us daily. I’m also not asking anyone to grieve anyone or anything that’s not genuinely breaking their heart, we each have our own multitude of ruptures and relationships to grieve. Most of my extra energy (what’s not gobbled up by trying to survive end-capitalism and Empire) goes into tending deep-time relationships. That’s the only way out of this collective nightmare. Here’s to tending village and the fierce practice of relational rupture and repair. XO, H 🌈🫏🧙🏻‍♀️ . . . #PolyCrisis #ForTheWild #EmergentStrategy #TheWildEdgeOfSorrow #CollapsePsychology #MutualAid #GriefWork #GriefRitual #MendingTheWeb
I’m so sick of not being able to have complex co I’m so sick of not being able to have complex conversations about complex and critical topics, and I don’t appreciate being berated by man-people with large platforms when I/we are asking reasonable questions. For me, this is about asking how we ethically navigate the collapse of Empire and critically evaluate programs like Chorus. I have mixed feelings about this and need more clarity on how Chorus actually functions before forming a fuller opinion. Some creators say they’re free to be critical of anyone they choose and make any content they want while in the program, and I hope that’s true. The contract they signed says the opposite. I believe creators deserve to be at choice and get paid for their work. I also believe the public deserves to understand who’s funding and shaping our public discourse (even if it’s not standard practice in our current system). This isn’t about blame or shame toward individuals. It’s about discernment and asking deeper questions about how power, money, and narrative-control are operating in these times of polycrisis and rising fascism, and what that means for those of us who are committed to building freer futures. Also, I want to note that I am not an attorney. I have a doctorate in law, a JD, which means I graduated law school. Technically, I am a lawyer but not an attorney. Meaning I’ve never taken the bar and thus have never passed the bar. I do have an extensive legal background, have read and edited thousands of contracts in my life, and read contracts with a legal mindset. Last and always: Free Palestine. May those aboard the Freedom Flotilla break the siege. May blessings and spells ride the waves with them. May food, water, and love flow freely to the people of Palestine. XO, H 🌈🫏🧙🏻‍♀️ PS: I welcome conversation, but if people can’t be respectful and thoughtful, I’ll restrict or close comments. . . . #EmergentStrategy #Polycrisis #CollapsePsychology #FreedomFlotilla #NeuroQueer #AntiCapitalism #ClimateCrisis #IndependentMedia #ProtectJournalists #ISurvivedLawSchool
Like most people I know, I am making decisions tha Like most people I know, I am making decisions that are hard and scary. I’m discerning how to stay human in these times of collapse and extreme violence. What I know is that, at the end of this life, nothing I’ve done will matter if it wasn’t relational and soulful. Free Palestine. XO, H 🌈🫏🧙🏻‍♀️ PS: If you’ve chosen more material stability and later seek deeper meaning in soul-centered, liberation-based spaces, generously share the resources you’ve accumulated. Thank you! . . . #EmergentStrategy #TheWildEdgeOfSorrow #GriefWork #SoulWork #CollapsePsychology #Polycrisis #CommunityOrganizing #MutualAid
This isn’t a pro-AI or anti-AI post. It’s a pr This isn’t a pro-AI or anti-AI post. It’s a pro-community & anti-Empire post. At its heart, this is about belonging, liberation, and how we can actually take care of each other in the face of so much loneliness and emptiness. It’s also about being deeply honest in these times of collapse. To clarify what’s in these slides: I know some partnerships, including marriages, are beautiful & contribute to the communal well-being. And I know marriage within patriarchy privileges a very narrow kind of relationship that doesn’t work for so many of us. Also (bit of a side note), I believe that when *some* people talk about polyamory, what they’re really longing for is village, or even more deeply, animistic lifeways. Mostly, I want to build compassion for people who are lonely & under-resourced (which I believe is the majority of us). AI is highlighting this reality. What I’m not interested in is extreme, binary thinking about AI that strips dignity from people reaching for it in their loneliness, while ignoring the reality that AI is already woven into our world & will widen its reach (our “opponents” are absolutely leveraging AI). What I am interested in are more nuanced conversations, like: What are the true impacts of AI (many are over-exaggerated, some are not)? What feels like ethical use of AI (if any), what doesn’t? How can we resist capitalist consumption & supremacy-shaped relating, and instead support the building of living relationships and village, so people aren’t forced to rely on AI for companionship? Could AI, in some cases, actually support movements for collective liberation? Since we live in an animistic world, is AI ensouled, or a reflection of our soul-loss? Or both?? Shout out to my chronically ill & neuroqueer friends who stayed with me in the extreme depths of the underworld. And may those who abandoned, betrayed, and exploited me during that time learn how to be in the dark with others, and find the medicine of rupture and repair. XO, H 🌈🫏🧙🏻‍♀️ PS: This is the longest set of slides I’ve ever made, & I don’t know how this format will land. We’ll see. . . . #Neuroqueer #Collapse #Polycrisis #GriefWork #SoloPoly #Spoonie #SoulWork
If you’ve been following me for a while, you kno If you’ve been following me for a while, you know I’ve been frustrated with the term “nervous system regulation” for years. To be clear, it’s not only about language (though language matters); it’s about the approach underneath it. Every time I share this, some folks reply, “But THIS is what we mean by regulation, you just don’t understand.” I do understand. Among other things, I’m trained in somatic trauma work, attachment therapy, transpersonal psychology, and deep democracy work. I know how people are being trained. What we’re often pointing to when we say “regulate the nervous system” are things like widening our window of tolerance, increasing capacity to feel without shutting down, soothing ourselves or another, or coming back into enough balance to keep going. And yet, why use the term regulation at all? Why use self-regulation? A phrase that, to me, is not just unrelational but violent. Do these words reflect what’s really happening in our bodies, our groups, our collective nervous systems, and our ecosystems? No. Sometimes I still use them, because I want to be legible to a wider audience or I simply slip. I’m not villainizing anyone who utters these terms. What I’m questioning is why these particular “terms of art” feel so comfortable to us. My answer: because we live in systems of supremacy and domination, systems that prize control and containment over our wild, full expression. Systems that can’t imagine non-coercive ways of being. Because mainstream psychology, and even much of “alternative” psychology, is born from white, colonized constructs that mistake taming and palatability for healing. So what if we talked about this work, this becoming human again, in wider and wilder ways? What if instead of regulation, we reached for words and practices that help us navigate the Long Dark together, with all of life? Words and practices that more closely convey collapse, and the reality of watching a holocaust unfold in real time? What language feels more relational, more liberatory, more alive, more neuroqueer for you? XO, H 🌈🫏🧙🏻‍♀️ PS: This is my periodic post about this. The first 6 slides are new, the last 9 are from previous posts.
I’m celebrating my dear friend, mentor, and co-f I’m celebrating my dear friend, mentor, and co-facilitator, Francis Weller, today. His new book “In the Absence of the Ordinary: Soul Work for Times of Uncertainty” just came out this week, and the ten-year anniversary edition of “The Wild Edge of Sorrow” was released in hardcover. Well done @natlanticbooks ~ this box is beautiful! The books are beautiful! Such needed soul medicine for these times. If you’re grieving, if you care about collective liberation, if you’re drawn to soul activism, I hope you’ll pick up one (or both) of these books. I’m so dang proud of Francis and thrilled to see these come into form. I’m smiling and crying at the same time as I write this. Indeed, “it is time to become immense.” As Francis says in his note I am reading here: May we make radical changes to our interior and communal lives. XO, H 🌈🫏🧙🏻‍♀️ PS: This is my first “unboxing,” and it’s pretty new to me to edit a video with a voice-over. I only kind of know what I’m doing, but I hope it nourishes some souls today. . . . #TheWildEdgeOfSorrow #InTheAbsenceOfTheOrdinary #EmergentStrategy #GriefWork #SoulWork #SoulActivism #PolyCrisis #ClimatePsychology #FrancisWeller #AdrienneMareeBrown #AndersonCooper #ThomasHubl #MichaelLerner #NorthAtlanticBooks
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