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While my home-base is in Colorado—on the stolen, ancestral lands of the Arapaho, Ute, and Cheyenne tribes—I work with people and communities across the Dreaming Earth. You can send me a digital howl using the button below or by emailing holly@hollytruhlar.com. If you want to know about upcoming workshops, groups, and in-person events sign up for my newsletter below, connect with me on instagram, or explore my Events & Offerings page.

 

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I don’t have a lot to say but today is tender an I don’t have a lot to say but today is tender and hard and soft and gracious. I haven’t publicly shared a lot about this but it feels right: I’m navigating losing my mom slowly to Alzheimer’s while holding the long echoes of my siblings’ deaths. Some days, it feels like I’m the living altar where their memories gather, asking me to tend not just the grief but the gratitude—for them, for her, for all that’s been lost and what we’re still losing. My mom is here, in some ways, and not in others. I miss her. I love her. I feel the unfairness of all she’s lost, all she’s endured, and how it’s been passed on in our lineage. I feel gratitude for the ways she taught me to be strong. I feel sadness for the ways we didn’t get to be soft together. I also feel the exhaustion of being a caregiver without a village to help hold it all. It’s hard to tell how my mom feels today but I know she loves me and I love her. That seems to be what matters these days. If today feels heavy or heartbreaking for any reason, may you find moments of gentle care. . . . #GriefSupport #FamilySystems #AlzheimersCare #AlzheimersGrief #SiblingLoss #SorrowsOfTheWorld #IMissThem
whiteness refuses to grieve and so it continues to whiteness refuses to grieve and so it continues to be a force of mass death and destruction, fueling domination, denial, and collapse. This is why working with the Sixth Gate of Grief—Grief for the Harms We’ve Done—is essential for white people, especially those moving in grief, climate, and healing spaces. Without this reckoning, our work is performative not transformative, limiting not liberating. I’m going to be rewatching the video these came from and rereading these slides many times because they’re so much potency and truth. Wheeeew do I feel this one: “So suburbs became spiritual keeps, frozen, smiling, quietly rotting from disconnection.” I’m deeply grateful to Justin Scott — @this.cypher — for articulating what’s on these slides with such precision and power. His teaching reminds us that white refusal to grieve has shaped centuries of violence across continents and now compounds into the polycrisis we face. He also reminds us that another choice is possible and it entails “mass public uncurated grief.” This is part of the inspiration and invitation to Grief & Solidarity Days—a call into decentralized, unmonetized, collective grief. To finally tend what has long been avoided. To become human again by facing the truth and feeling our broken hearts together. To build communities and coalitions rooted in truth, repair, and shared humanity. Grief must be part of our movements, both for People of the Global Majority and for white folks. Because if we don’t grieve, we’ll stay numb, small, disconnected, disoriented, and untrustworthy. Because if we don’t grieve we’ll lose each other on top of everything else. Join us this Monday for a preparation call for Grief & Solidarity Days. We’ll be guided by Desiree Adaway, Kai Cheng Thom, Alexandra Blakely, Francis Weller, and me. Also, take care of yourselves and check in on your beloveds, especially the “resilient” ones. These times are rough, we need each other now more than ever. XO, H 🌈🫏🧙🏻‍♀️ . . . #TheWildEdgeOfSorrow #GriefSupport #EmergentStrategy #CommunityBuidling #CollectiveLiberation #FrancisWeller #ClimatePsychology #CollapsePsychology #TheLongDark #Polycrisis #GriefRitual
GRIEF & SOLIDARITY DAYS: A PREPARATION CALL with K GRIEF & SOLIDARITY DAYS: A PREPARATION CALL with Kai Cheng Thom, Desiree Adaway, Alexandra Blakely, Francis Weller, and Holly Truhlar This is a call for people to gather in the commons of the heart and grieve together. Grief & Solidarity Days is an invitation to join in decentralized grief gatherings on Saturday, May 31 or Sunday, June 1—to sit in backyard circles, gather in libraries and living rooms, hold vigil in public parks, and allow our sorrows to connect us. To everyone and anyone longing for a more liberated world: You are invited to gather and honor your heartbreak. Grief is not what pulls us away from the movement, it is what roots us deeper in care. And we were never meant to carry it alone. To support people in hosting these gatherings, we’re offering a free, LIVE PREPARATION CALL on Monday, May 12th. We’re honored to welcome @kaichengthom and Francis Weller as our opening speakers. They’ll share reflections on this moment in history and offer soul-rooted wisdom around these questions: Why gather in grief? And how might this communal practice deepen our movements for justice and liberation? After their offerings, @desireeadaway and @hollytruhlar will facilitate a community-centered session to support you in: Holding a simple 2–3 hour grief gathering Welcoming all griefs and people into the circle, even if they’ve never grieved in community Weaving grief into sustained action through liberation pods, local solidarity, and safety plans Our closing will be a shared song, taught by @alexandra_blakely, for you to offer in your own grief circle. Whether you’re a seasoned grief tender, an organizer, a community weaver, a movement leader, or someone quietly holding more than you can name, this call is for you. All are welcome. We grieve together so we can go on together. Come prepare. Come remember. Come gather in the Commons of the Heart. Date: Monday, May 12th Time: 4–5:30pm PDT / 7–8:30pm EDT Location: Zoom ~ Registration 🔗 in @hollytruhlar’s bio Cost: Free | Donations optional | Open to all
GATHERING AT THE WELL: A 3-DAY GRIEF & BELONGING R GATHERING AT THE WELL: A 3-DAY GRIEF & BELONGING RITUAL | June 27–29, 2025 | Evergreen, Colorado We’re gathering for three days of communal grief ritual, earth-honoring practices, singing, storytelling, and soul tending — held by the land, the ancestors, and each other. This is a space to bring your heartbreaks, your longings, your weariness, and your wonder. A space where tears are not problems to be solved but sacred waters to be poured and shared. This gathering will be rooted in song and rhythm, carried by experienced song circle leaders, and nourished by the heartbeat of the drum. We’ll weave our voices together, remembering the ancient ways of grieving and living in community. Throughout our time together, we’ll lean into politicized grief tending and soul activism, asking not just what we grieve, but what our grief is in service to. We will close our gathering with a potent collective offering: How does grieving together resource us for the work of liberation, repair, and tending to the living world? WHEN & WHERE: June 27–29, 2025 Agua Kodera Ranch | Evergreen, CO All meals provided by our retreat chef Low cost lodging on site (we get to dream together!) FACILITATED BY: Holly Truhlar, Jessica Radovich, and Brian “Yam” Dwyer Together, we will root into village-building practices of grief, belonging, song, and soul activism. Together, we will remember that in a collapsing world, grief is not a detour, it is the way home. Come as you are. Bring your sorrows and your songs. Let’s gather at the well. . . . #GriefRitual #CommunityGrief #GriefSupport #TheWildEdgeOfSorrow #TendingTheThreshold #SoulWork #CommunityBuilding #TheLongDark #GriefTending #CollapsePsychology #AncestralHealing #ClimatePsychology #SongCircle #Belonging
SORROWS OF THE WORLD VIGIL Friday, May 2nd • 9–10am PDT / 12–1pm EDT In this time of unraveling, of collective and personal heartbreak, we gather again. Not to fix, but to feel. To hold the ache together. Join us in sacred ritual space as we light candles, read poetry, share what’s heavy, and remember that our grief is not too much and we are not alone. Music will hold us for 15 minutes as we tend our altars, cry, write, rest, remember. We’ll begin and end in community, with somatic grounding and poems as our guideposts. Facilitated by @thishallowedwilderness (Naila Francis) and @hollytruhlar. Free. On Zoom. Not recorded. Bring a candle if you can. All grief is welcome. We hold vigil to remember what’s sacred in an overculture that keeps trying to forget. 🔗 in bye-oh. . . . #GriefRitual #TheWildEdgeOfSorrow #CollapseAware #DeathDoula #SoulActivism #Vigil #GriefSupport #TendingTheThreshold #ClimateGrief #AncestralGrief #CommunalGrief #Polycrisis #SoulWork
These words are from an essay I wrote on Friday ti These words are from an essay I wrote on Friday titled Rituals of Repair: We Need New Spells and Skills for Communal and Cultural Care (🔗 in bye-oh). They arise from a deeper inquiry I’ve been living for over a decade. We need to upskill our capacity to name and tend to rupture, hurt, harm, and accountability. We need shared practices for engaging the Sixth Gate of Grief: the harms we’ve done. I have both caused and experienced harm, and because my work is rooted in relationships, I will cause and experience more hurt and harm. In the last few years, I was a part of a land-based grief project and a collapse-aware community that both caused very real harm to me and others. When I named those experiences with clarity and care, I was mostly met with silence and dismissal. So, we need something beyond excuses or exile. Beyond avoidance or takedowns. We need practices rooted in soul, relationship, and communal skill. If we are to survive collapse with any shred of humanity intact, if we are to build a more liberatory future, we must grow our capacity for compassionate accountability. We need a culture of return, not rejection. Rituals of repair that honor the humanness of mistake and injury. Ways to stay in connection without erasing harm or erasing people. For those of us building coalitions and communities, let us keep asking: What are the suturing spells we need now? What are the repair rituals that return us to truth and connection? What are the skills we must grow to help us stay—with each other, with our grief, with the conflict that comes from being in relationship and living in a complex world? This is the conversation I’m committed to. How we live in the messy middle. How we build soul-rooted community in times of rupture. How we become people who can be trusted with grief, complexity, and each other’s lives. XO, H 🌈🫏🧙🏻‍♀️ . . . #EmergentStrategy #IHopeWeChooseLove #SoulWork #RitualsOfRepair
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